Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Why Is June Associated With Getting Married?

Out of the twelve months of the year, generally when someone hears June, weddings spring to mind.  My experience as a wedding coordinator at the Lake of the Ozarks has seen quite a few still taking place in June, but just as many in May.  Besides that, September and October have turned into peak months to tie the knot too.  So why the link to the month of June?  Well, I wondered, so I did some research, and this is what I found out.



The Roman goddess Juno is connected with all aspects of the life of women. She is known as the goddess of childbirth and the goddess of marriage.  This combined with the fact that the month of June is named after her are perfect reasons to want to be married in June. People used to believe that being married in this month would bring prosperity and happiness to the couple.    

Another reason found for brides favoring June dates way back to the times when people only bathed once a year.  After wearing heavy clothing all winter long and the weather began warming up in May people would take their "annual bath." People were anxious to get married in June because they still smelled fresher than they would for the rest of the year.  Sure makes you appreciate living in the here and now with indoor plumbing and showers!


The final reason is a very practical one.  When families relied on farming for their livelihood, having a June wedding was convenient for a possible post-wedding pregnancy not getting in the way of the wife helping with the harvest.  It would be early enough that she could still perform some manual labor, and a Spring birth meant that she would be recovered and in good enough health to help out with the next year's harvest.  



Wedding planning can be coordinated successfully any time of the year.  Lots of factors should go into the date that you end up choosing.  If you need any help deciding what will work the best for you and your family, reach out to Events DEE-signed for some guidance.  The most important factor being that it is one that you and your fiance are both cool with.  As long as the two of you are happy with the date, than that is the perfect month for you.


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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Events DEE-signed's 2014 Year-In-Review

This is a blog that I really wanted to write in January, but I kept putting it off.  Getting this blog written down is very helpful for me to see how much better Events DEE-signed did booking & coordinating events & weddings from the previous year.  So instead of deciding that I missed my chance to write it, it's being done now.  Better late than never, right!?!

I still consider myself a very small business.  Event planning is still my "side job" (meaning I can't solely live off of it... yet!!), but I am steadily meeting more people, learning more helpful business habits, and increasing the number of events I coordinate each year.


In 2014, I booked 7 weddings!!  Only 6 actually happened, & one of those was just a couple of hours of assistance, but the point is that they found me and wanted to hire me!!  I also planned 2 bachelorette parties, games for a child's birthday party (a Lego themed one, fun!!), and my own daughter's college graduation party.  (Okay, so technically I didn't hire myself, but I did put a lot into it.)

-For more photos, head over to my Facebook albums.-

I was hired as the photographer for one of my weddings, and was asked to be the second shooter for Sherry Farrell Photography on 3 of hers.  Photography is something that I have always loved, and getting to take pictures with her super-nice camera was a real treat!!  That line of work is something that I could actually see myself venturing into if I take the time to learn more about my camera & some advanced shooting techniques.  I already have the eye for it, but more training never hurt anyone.  

  -My first gig as a photographer's assistant.-   
  -Sherry & I at the Wedding Market Expo
 in St. Louis.-     

















This year I participated in my very first bridal show.  My local wedding association (Lake of the Ozarks Wedding Association) decided to put on our own, and I was in charge of the wonderful committee full of wedding professionals that made it a huge success.

-Lake of the Ozarks Bridal Show 2014 - Events DEE-signed booth.-
A new discovery for me, Twitter chats, turned out to be an amazing way to meet other people in the wedding industry.  Lots of great idea sharing & learning from all over the country, some even further away.  I also attended training through the Wedding Market Expo in St. Louis, MO for 2 days.  This was full of extremely useful tips for marketing Events DEE-signed, I met some really amazing & successful people in my industry, and most importantly it got me excited about sharing my business and pushing it to grow.

Well, that was my year.  Not too shabby, if I do say so myself!!  Enough to show some personal growth for my business, and plenty to build upon for 2015.  I hope that you stay tuned and watch it grow even more.  Even better, head on over to the beautiful Lake of the Ozarks this summer and let me help you throw a party!!  (wink, wink)




     "I'll plan, 
so you can party!!"

Deanna Powell

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(573) 216-3422


Wednesday, January 21, 2015

** Bridal Show Survival Tips & Tricks **

It’s Bridal Show time!!  

My local show, the Lake of the Ozarks Bridal Show (#LakeBridalShow, if you hashtag) happens every February.  Well, this will only be the second February that we are hosting, but we rocked our first one, so there will be many, many more February shows to come.  I am surrounded by some pretty amazing and creative wedding pros here at the Lake.  

Unless you have been to shows as a friend of a bride in the past or work in the industry, this whole world is probably new to you.  A bridal show is a magical place where you can find someone to fulfill every aspect of your wedding planning checklist, that is, if you know how to look.  Go in blind, and you may leave more confused than you came in.  

It can be overwhelming to have so much information thrown at you all at once, not to mention all of the vendors giving you all of the reasons that they think they are the right fit for your particular wedding.  Here are a few tips and tricks to hopefully help you navigate the maze of booths and come out confident and possibly, in a perfect world, with everything booked!!  

Most importantly...


HAVE FUN WITH IT!!!!!!  
Most of the lists that I researched saved this tip for the end.  I want to begin with it, hoping that you will keep this in mind while you read.  Bring along a helpful (yet fun) friend or two, or your fiance if he fits this description, and enjoy the process.




Before the show...


MAKE A PLAN OF ATTACK.  
Before the show, check out it's website. Look over the list of vendors, research them a little, and know who you really want to see that day. Visit those booths first, and then go up and down each aisle and check out as many more as you can. You never know when you will discover a new idea or a vendor you didn't expect to like but immediately click with. Have some quesitons ready to ask. Now is a great time to get advice from the experts, and their answers will tell you a lot aobut them. Also, look at the show schedule and know when the fashion show and other events will be going on.
  
SET UP A TEMPORARY EMAIL ADDRESS.   
You will start receiving all kinds of emails from loads of vendors once you share your information with them, which is generally required if you want to register for that awesome prize that they are giving away.  Setting up a special email account especially for these will keep your regular email address free from lots of “junk mail” after the wedding.  If there are any businesses that you would like to keep in touch with for other events in your life, be sure to give them your regular email later.   
PRINT SPECIAL WEDDING ADDRESS LABELS.  
There will be tons of cool stuff to sign up to win, but your hand will cramp up and be useless if you have to write all of your info out at every single booth.  Your labels need to include the bride’s name, groom’s name, and your wedding date.   Next be sure to add a way to get in touch with you, either email, phone number, or preferably both. If you don’t make labels, PRINT NEATLY!! If they can’t read your name or number, you may not get to accept that fancy honeymoon you could have won.




Grab a few things on your way out the door...


BRING YOUR DATEBOOK.  
There will be vendors that you will want to speak with in more detail than you are able to do in a crowded room full of brides who are also wanting their attention.  Set up a future meeting right then and there.    

BRING YOUR CHECKBOOK. 
I know, I know, who writes checks anymore?  Well, some smaller vendors may not be able to take plastic, and when you meet a vendor that you know is without a doubt “the one,” you will want to put down a deposit and lock in your date.  The best wedding pros will book up quickly, especially venues and photographers.  A bit of pre-show research on the vendors will add confidence to any buying decisions.  

HAVE SOME SPENDING MONEY.  
At some shows, you may need a bit of cash for extras like parking, drinks or snacks, coat check, etc…  and there isn’t always an ATM handy.

SOMETHING (& SOMEONE) TO TAKE NOTES. 
Make sure to have a pen & paper handy to write down the extra-special things that you know you will want to remember later.  You can even use your phone to snap a pic of that vendor you really liked so that you have a face to go with the name.  It also helps to jot down your impressions of a certain vendor directly on the back of their business card.  This way you know exactly what you thought of that person without having to sift through your memory of all of the people that you spoke to throughout the day.  And hey, use that helpful (yet fun) friend that you brought along with you.  They can write notes for you, fill out contest forms, and gather literature while you use your time to chat with the vendors.

BAG FOR V.I.P. INFO.  
You will most likely get a bag to collect literature as you enter the show, possibly a few of them.  Bring along a bag, folder, or something of your own to keep the cards and info that you know you will be needing later separate.  Toss all of the other stuff into the not-so-important bag, but don’t immediately throw it away when you get home.  It’s wise to keep the extra vendor info in case one that you plan on using doesn't work out and you need a backup, or if your budget magically grows and you can add an extra service you originally didn't plan on.        



While you are there...     


WEAR COMFY SHOES.  Sure, those brand new sparkly heels sitting in your closet have been waiting for an excuse to step out with you and your girlfriends, but today is NOT the day. Slip on those comfy tennis shoes, your pedometer, and chalk today up as a workout... with cake & wine!!  

LIMIT YOUR FOOD SAMPLE INTAKE. Sure that cake looks delicious... and that one... and oooh, the other one too…  but after you try a piece at every booth you will be too full to keep walking, and don’t forget about the inevitable sugar rush.  Bring along a water bottle,  and maybe even pack a small snack in your purse.  These things may or may not be available at the show, but a 50-cent water bottle will cost you $2-$3.

KEEP YOUR BUDGET IN MIND.  Don’t be too quick with those checkbooks!!  There will be a lot of very, VERY, good specials offered at many of the booths.  You shouldn't feel pressured to act too quickly.  If you are interested, ask if the vendor can offer you the same special if you schedule a future meeting and book at that.  

REALLY TALK TO THE VENDORS.  I see so many brides sneak a peek at a booth and then scurry quickly past before the vendor can get out a hello.  Stop, say hi, and start asking questions!!  That’s the reason you are here, and it’s the best way to find out if this person is the right fit for you.  Are they too pushy?  Simply say thank you and move on.  If you can’t get away from them, use your helpful (yet fun) friend to do this dirty work for you.  They can drag you away or jump between the two of you while you make a break for it!!    

TAKE YOUR TIME.  The show will be, at the very least, 3 or 4 hours long.  There is no need to rush quickly up and down the aisles.  Really look at the displays, hear what the pros have to say, and leave yourself time to take a break here and there to process what you are seeing.  Another time saving tip- if you have no interest in the fashion show, it’s the best time to talk to your favorite  vendors.  The bulk of the crowd will be watching the show and you will have many of the booths all to yourself.



And once again, most importantly...


HAVE FUN WITH IT!!!!!!  

If you can’t have a little fun during the planning process, then you are doing it wrong.  Sure, there will be some stress along the way, but always remember the reason this is all happening, take a deep breath, and remember to enjoy it.      

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Wedding Wednesday: Part 3- April (Bridal) Showers

Basics and games have already been covered, so let's wrap this up with a little invitation and theme talk. 

Invitations:
You should start inviting guests at least a month in advance.  This should give everyone plenty of time to clear up their schedules and be able to attend.  For one shower that I hosted, I ran into the problem that we didn't have a location set in stone  but it was time to send the invites out.  I listed the date, time, and town that it was to be held in on the invite and promised the last minute details to those that RSVP'd.  (see pic below)  

The manner in which you decide to invite people depends on the best way to communicate with your particular group of friends.  A simple Facebook event might be the way to reach everyone that you are inviting.  This doesn't personally work the best for me because I have found that most of my friends don't notice their event invites.  Sometimes I still post the event so that guests can openly discuss the party and ask questions, but I always request that they RSVP to me personally.

Evite.com is a great way to contact everyone both by email and actual (snail) mail.  I played around with some designs before writing this, and it was so very quick and simple to use.  You pick a theme and fill in the details, then you can email them to your computer savvy friends or have Evite send out actual paper invitations with a link to the RSVP site. (I would suggest telling guests that they can also RSVP by calling or texting your phone number in the "message from host" section.)  Evite will notify you when people respond and help you to keep track of it all.  It can even give directions to your event and list the bride and groom's gift registries.  I am sure lots of other sites also do this today, but this is the one I remember to go to first.



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You can always run out and buy invitations, too, but my very favorite thing to do is to make my own.  I can never quite find exactly what I am looking for, and if I have the time, I LOVE doing anything crafty!!  This option makes it very easy to coordinate the design of everything at the shower, including printed out games and decorations.  The invitation above was made in multiple color combinations to match the bright, rainbow colors used in the shower decor.  I found the 3-D heart stickers on clearance at a hobby store and their bubbly appearance made me think of raindrops.   

Themes:
Plenty of different things can point you in the direction of a "theme" for your shower.  I use the quotation marks because the idea of a theme doesn't have to be big.  It can be as simple as the colors you decide to use for decorating or as elaborate as the bride's favorite movie, book, city, etc...  She loves Alice in Wonderland?  A tea party!!  The couple is honeymooning in Mexico?  Margarita's & a taco bar!!  

Sometimes your theme can emerge from the type of gifts that you are requesting for the bride.  A "Round-the-clock Shower" is where each guest is given an hour of the day to purchase a gift for.  Noon could be cooking equipment (lunch), an early hour could be something coffee-related, midnight- some type of bedding.  Are  your bride and groom foodies?  Have a "Recipe Shower" and ask all of the guests to bring the instructions for their favorite dish to prepare along with something to help make it.  (Cookware, ingredients, novelty apron...)    

Hate the thought of having to choose a theme?  My suggestion is to find an interesting idea, a cool decoration, or even the look of an invitation that you like and build around it.  A "theme" will emerge on it's own before you know it.  These colorful flowers inspired all of the other decorations for this shower.  
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Co-ed Showers:
Unless the groom (or bride) is totally and completely against it, how about throwing a shower for the both of them?  They are both getting married, and more than likely they both registered for the gifts.  Throw away that old idea of a girly afternoon and use this for another excuse to have a party with all of your friends!!  In my experience, just about every game can be twisted so that the guys can enjoy it too.  Also, a bar close by always seems to intrigue the guys just enough for them to give it a chance.  Another option is to have the bulk of the shower for a while and let the fellas join you for the last hour.   

I hope that this "April Showers" series gave you at least a little inspiration.  Next month I will try to cover "May Flowers" in one of the blogs.  Please comment below or reach out to me on Facebook or Twitter with ideas about what you would like for me to blog about next.         



  

          

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Wedding Wednesday: Part 2- April (Bridal) Showers

Alright, now for some fun stuff!!  Last week I covered a little bit of basic bridal shower knowledge, kind of a FAQ version.  Today we can get into a more interesting part... games & activities!!

Shower games don't have to be old-fashioned, cheesy, and cliche.  Have fun with it.  There is no set rule on what you have to do, but a couple of games to break the ice and loosen everyone up can really set the tone for the whole party.  I like to plan a game or activity to keep everyone busy while the other guests arrive, at least one main game, and then have a few old stand-bys ready in case there is extra time to fill.  

Some people arrive early, others on time, and quite a few straggle in a little late.  (Yep, that's usually me unless I'm throwing it.  In that case, I'm just rushing around thinking that I am running late!!)  Hopefully your guests will mingle and talk to each other, but just in case that doesn't happen, it's good to have an activity to occupy them while they wait for everything to start. 

Bridal Bingo is a great, easy one for people to play.  You provide the blank bingo cards (I use B-R-I-D-E  at the top of mine) and each guest writes the name of one item that they believe the bride will open as a gift.  You can decide how strict you need to be on the rules.  My only rule is that you cannot list multiple items from the gift that you brought in a winning line.  That takes all of the sport out of it!!  I personalize the free space with a picture of the bride-to-be, then make copies on colored paper to match the other decor.  A bowl of small candies at each table is my favorite way to mark off spots, but a pencil works too.

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How well do you know the bride?   is also a good game at the beginning of the party.  Come up with a few questions about the engaged couple.  Some should be simple enough for everyone to know (like where is the wedding taking place), but be sure to throw in a few hard ones too (like what is the bride's middle name).  It is a game after all!!  Definitely add some silly questions in there (like what is the bride's favorite body part on the groom!!)  A mix of written answers and multiple choice questions works well.  
The most important thing when picking questions is that you okay them all with the bride ahead of time.  A good giggle isn't worth it if her feelings are hurt.   
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Special Memories  Have each guest write down a special memory they have with the bride, or maybe even the story of how they met.  The bride reads them all out loud and has to guess who wrote each.  If she cannot guess, then that person wins a prize.  (Just in case the bride is having a mental block, make sure you have plenty of small prizes on hand!!)  Everyone gets to relive some fond memories, and these can all be added to a scrapbook of the shower later on.  

Can/Jar of Dates is a game that I have seen many variations of.  Actually this is more of an activity than a game.  The end result is a container full of date-night ideas for the bride and groom.  Each guest writes down a few suggestions, in detail, about a fun evening for the couple to share.  I have seen these written on sheets of paper, and I have seen them written on popsicle sticks (FYI:  It's tough to get a lot of detail on a small stick).  You can choose whatever looks prettiest with your container, but the important part is that you can color-code whatever you write on.  Designate a different color for each level of date:  stay-at-home, inexpensive, costly, spontaneous, needs planning, etc...  That way when the couple needs an idea for a fun evening, they can pick a color that matches their current circumstances.  (I think I need to make one of these for me and my guy!!)
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There are plenty of templates online that you can print directly from your computer for games to start the party with. (I simply googled "free bridal shower game templates" and bunches popped up.)  If you have the time, it's a really nice touch to make your own and match it to your theme or color scheme.  

Here are a few games that can take place sometime during the party.   

Bangle Shakedown is a variation on the baby shower clothespin game.  Upon arrival, each person is given a bangle bracelet.  (You should be able to find a stack of these at your local dollar store.)  Choose a few "taboo" words for the day, such as wedding, reception, groom, etc...  that are not to be uttered for the length of the party.  If someone catches you saying a forbidden word, they get to steal your bangle!!  At the end of the shower the most decorated arm is the winner.  This will start out happening a lot, die down a bit, and probably start back up again when people let their guard down and forget to watch their "language."  

Toilet Paper Wedding Gown  Okay, I will admit, this is one of those old games that can sound a bit cheesy, but if you have the right group it's a lot of laughs.  If you have a super competitive group, well, you can actually see some amazing dresses, considering what they are made of!!  Divide up into teams of 3 or 4 people and give each team a couple of rolls of toilet paper.  Set a timer, then each team decorates one of their members in a couture gown of their own making.  Follow it up with a fashion show.  You can either have the bride judge, or go for a group vote.  If no one is allowed to vote for their own dress, it should be a fair win.  

A "stand-by game" is one that is simple, everyone usually already knows, and requires little or no preparation.  Generally the only props you will need are things that you already have lying around the house, so you aren't out any money if you end up not playing them.    
Charades is an easy one (as long as your crowd isn't too shy).  All you need is scraps of paper and word ideas.
Pictionary needs the same things, plus a big chalkboard or some big pieces of paper and something to write with. 
Purse Raid is another one that really needs nothing but imagination.  Call out different items that a woman might have in her purse and give points for each.  The one with the most points gets a small prize.  All you have to do is come up with a list.

Prizes:  You don't need to break the bank on game prizes.  Hit the dollar store and get a few girly knick-knacks that are useful or cute.  A bag of 3 Ring Pops is only $1= 3 prizes!!  Yummy and "engagement ring" themed.  An old ritual is that all prizes won get returned to the bride for her to use.  I find few people have heard of that one nowadays, and the bride will be getting plenty of stuff already.  Whether you do this or not is totally up to you.  

Present Time!!
Don't forget that the bride opening gifts will take up a large chunk of the shower.  If there is a very large guest list, you might even want to take a break or two during to play a quick 5-10 minute game or have another course of appetizers or drinks.  

A ritual that I personally enjoy is saving a ribbon or bow from each gift to form a practice bouquet for the wedding rehearsal.  What do you do if there is no ribbon on the package?  Use some of the wrapping paper to make a paper flower.  What if they use a gift bag?  The tissue paper from inside the bag makes a great flower too.  Make sure if you do this that you remember to finish the bouquet and get it to the bride after the shower.  

While we are on the subject of gift-opening, you as the host are responsible for keeping track of which guest gives which gift so that the bride can correctly complete her thank you notes.  You can keep track on a sheet of paper while she opens presents, but a couple of even simpler ideas are:
- Write every guest's name on a sticker and simply stick it to the gift after it is opened.  I don't suggest using post-it notes.  They tend to fall off in transit.
- If a card is included, put it inside the package after it is opened to keep the two together.
- Designate a bag or basket to keep lone cards/ gift cards in one spot.      

Here is a link to my own Bridal Showers & Bachelorette Parties Pinterest Board.  Pinterest is my favorite place to look for creative inspiration for, well, just about everything!!  Loverly is another good site for for getting wedding ideas flowing.  

Check back next Wedding Wednesday for another installment in this series.  Follow me on Facebook for ideas and info throughout the week.  Please feel free to ask questions there or give me some ideas on what you would like to read about.  Talk at you soon!!      

All of the games listed above I have either done on my own at a shower or have seen on multiple web pages, so there is no way for me to know where the game actually originated.  All pictures used in this post are my own.      


Friday, April 11, 2014

Baby Shower Basics

So you have a friend who is expecting a bouncing baby bundle of joy?  Well here is some basic information to help get you started planning a fun celebration in their honor.

Who should host the baby shower?
Anyone that would like to can host a baby shower for the new baby, although it is generally not the mother or father throwing it for themselves.  Multiple showers are great, but please stress to anyone that is invited to more than one shower that their presence is welcome but a second gift is NOT expected.  Sometimes different groups of people in your life want to celebrate with you, and if they aren't all close to each other, only one shower just won't do.  

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When should a shower take place?
The best time frame to throw a celebration like this is 1-2 months before the actual due date.  You don't want to wait too long because sometimes those little ones are anxious to come out before they are expected to!!  Another option is to have a "Welcome Baby" shower a few weeks after the child has been born.  This is a wonderful way to introduce your friends and family to the baby all at once.  

Do you only throw a shower for the firstborn?
 OF COURSE NOT!!  Every child is special, so it's perfectly acceptable (and should be encouraged) to celebrate each one.


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If the siblings are close in age, the parents probably still have most of the older child's baby stuff.  If they really need nothing at all, let guests know to not bring gifts, or ask for donations for a charity to be donated in the baby's or family's name.  Or, how about a diaper shower?  Those are something that don't get handed down.  (Unless you are into cloth diapers.  I applaud that, but I wasn't quite that ambitious myself.)  You get to celebrate the new arrival with the people you care about, plus get to skip a lot of those late night diaper runs to the 24-hour store. 

What is expected of the host?
Mom (and maybe Dad) are to be treated as guests at this shower.  Do your best to make them just sit back and enjoy it.  You will be in charge of invitations (make sure to have the parents approve the list), planning the decorations, food, & activities, keeping track of who gives which gift for thank you note purposes, and cleaning up afterwards.  Make sure you greet each guest as they arrive and have a timeline planned out beforehand to keep the party flowing smoothly.  

If these things are not your strong suit, there are event planners out there (like, say, ME!!) that LOVE doing these type of events and have plenty of experience to make everything seem simple.     
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Basic baby shower info covered.  I hope it was helpful.  Someday soon I will try to squeeze in a blog full of the fun stuff like games, decor, food...    

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Wedding Wednesday: April (Bridal) Showers

"April Showers bring May Flowers," so...  what better subject to explore this month than bridal showers?  (Can you guess what I just might talk about next month?)



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Who should host the bridal shower?  
Nowadays, anyone that wants to.  Close friends, co-workers, family members...  It doesn't have to be the bridesmaids, and for that matter, it doesn't have to be just the girls.  Co-ed showers can be all kinds of fun.  After all, two people are getting married, not just one.  The only rule to follow is that anyone invited to a shower needs to also be invited to the wedding.  An exception to this is if you are having a small ceremony with only a few guests, or a destination wedding far away, and you have friends or co-workers that wish to honor you with a shower.  

If a co-ed shower isn't your thing, a cute ritual that I came across in my research is to have the groom show up with a bouquet of flowers just before the gifts are opened.  This is especially nice to do if a lot of your guests have not yet met your fiance.  Here's an even better idea- have your guy show up with a bouquet of individual stems and let him present one to each of your shower guests.  He'll look extra-dreamy to all of the other girls!!

  
When should a shower take place?
Generally showers are thrown 2 weeks - 2 months before the wedding.  By then the bride and groom have their guest list and gift registries finished.  You need both of those things to get your own invitations out.  

The first thing to do when picking a date is to make sure that the bride is available.  (Very important!!)  If you are having difficulty finding one date that works best for all of your friends, maybe a couple of different people can host showers.  Between the 2 (or more) dates everyone should be able to make it to at least one.  Multiple showers are the best way to go if you are wanting to include different groups of people at each, such as one for only family, or college buddies, or co-workers,...  This way you have the chance to try some wilder ideas without offending someone's grandmother.    

If anyone is invited to more than one shower for the same bride, please stress that they are not expected to bring a gift to each of them.  They weren't invited to increase the present pile, but because the bride wanted to include them.  There is a very good chance that the bridesmaids especially may fit into multiple categories in the bride's life.  

What is expected of the host?
The party is in honor of the bride (and maybe the groom), but the person (or people) throwing it is expected to act as host for the event.  You will be in charge of inviting guests (with a list from the couple), planning the decorations, food, & activities, helping the bride to keep track of who gives which gift for thank you note purposes, and cleaning up afterwards.  Make sure you greet each guest as they arrive and have a timeline planned out beforehand to keep the party flowing smoothly.  

If these things are not your strong suit, there are event planners out there (ooh...me, ME!!) that have plenty of experience doing all of this.  If you use your bride's coordinator you may even be able to work out a discount on services. 

Today's post lists some of the basics for getting your shower planning under way.  (In other words, all facts and not a lot of fun.)  Throughout the month I will be getting into the good stuff:  games, themes, decor, food...  
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